1.) Q: Your family has struggled financially over the past couple of years, but recently you were offered a higher-paying job that involves a 45-minute commute. If you take the job, your family will be able to replace an aging car, and otherwise make ends meet as well as continue to save a bit for college tuition.
A: You'll take the job! you can probably get some flex time after you pass the probationary period.
>Taking the job means additional increase of salary even though it means a lot of sacrifices like the time for traveling to work, but the money earned could meet the financial needs of my family especially for Alexander's tuition fees.
Alexander
Keith is enjoying the basketball team this year but is not one of the
most outstanding players. The team has a chance to win the league this
year.
You help out in whatever way you can, such as joining the booster club and helping to raise money for the team.
2.) Q: Alexander Keith is having a few problems with concentration and
distractibility, possibly because of the number of activities and the
pressure of more demanding classes, upcoming College Board tests, etc.
He has considered going on ADHD medication, but says he would like to
try to cope without it.
A: You support this goal and try to work cooperatively with him on time management and study skills.
> Supporting him would make it easier for him to cope up with his goals and study skills and it would not pressure him on his behavior and to his studies.
Alexander Keith is having a few problems with concentration and
distractibility, possibly because of the number of activities and the
pressure of more demanding classes, upcoming College Board tests, etc.
He has considered going on ADHD medication, but says he would like to
try to cope without it.
3.) Q: Alexander Keith comes home from a party smelling of marijuana. When you
ask about it, he looks evasive and says, "I'll talk to you later about
it." A day later, he admits to having tried marijuana outside the
house, where the parents were not monitoring the kids.
A: You say, " Thank you for telling me. However, this is against our rules and you are grounded for a week. " You also forbid Alexander Keith to go to a party with those friends for the next couple of months.
>Alexander is free of trying new things as part of his experience but he should have limits on it. Alexander have already done the action of trying marijuana so there's nothing else to do to undo the action but as his parents we have the right to make punishments for the wrong actions he have done so that he will be able to learn from it and to not commit the same mistake again.
4.) Q: Alexander Keith just got his driver's license after 50 hours of driving
with you, and passing the tests. The driver training instructor reported
that Alexander Keith was a conscientious driver. He never went over the
speed limit, always came to complete stops, and was very alert while
driving on the freeway.
A: You are proud of Alexander Keith for being so careful in a world of careless drivers . You get him a used car with very good safety features.
> At this age, we find it okay with the idea of giving Alexander a car since he did his best to past his driving test. As parents we give awards to him by buying him car because he did a very good job in proving that he is capable of having it.
Alexander Keith is occasionally moody due to fatigue or things that happen outside the home.
When
this happens, you say something sympathetic and make it clear that you
are available to talk, but don't press anything on him.
5.) Q: Alexander Keith has been developing some new interests lately. He has
been spending time with social activist and political clubs at school.
A: When the subject comes up, you offer your opinions on these events and the key players involved, but do little else.
>We find it interesting that Alexander is interested in such activities like political clubs in his school so my way of supporting Alexander in his interest is by offering my opinions for him to hear some reactions from adults and for him to evaluate more of his opinions from it too.
5.) Q: Alexander Keith took the PSAT and his scores were average for verbal and average for math. He got bogged down on the reading comprehension questions and some types of math questions and ran out of time. Ever since the results came back, he has been prone to self doubt. You have noticed that his study habits in English, history and math and science have gone down a bit.
A: You tell Alexander Keith that the PSAT and his scores does not determine how smart he is, nor does it determine what college he will get into. You remind Alexander Keith that he still has plenty of time to study and work hard so that he can do well on the SAT, the one that really matters.
> I don't want Alexander to feel bad about his scores because it will be an additional problem and pressure to him and it will only make his performance worst. So as a parent, I will comfort him by telling him to study well and do good on his other tests especially on his SAT.
6.) Q: You get a call from Alexander Keith on his cell phone. While backing out of a parking space Alexander Keith bumped into a passing car. There was only minor damage to both cars.
A: You realize it was a careless error and typical for young drivers, but you want Alexander Keith to learn a lesson so you revoke driving privileges for two weeks, and make him deal with all the insurance forms and earn the money to repay you the cost of the deductible of $250.
>Making mistakes is normal for teenagers at his age but as parents our way of giving punishment for Alexander is for him to work hard for the money that we lost because of his carelessness. Through that Alexander could learn a valuable lesson of being careful the next time. And with that kind of punishment it will make him responsible of his actions.
7.) Q: Alexander Keith has been playing violin in the school orchestra and continuing with piano and guitar lessons off and on over the past couple of years. He accompanies himself on the guitar and sings very well. Now he has a choice of being a lead violinist in the school orchestra, or part of a quartet organized by his private music teacher that will travel a bit and give recitals.
A: Alexander Keith wants to keep his music up, but wants to focus on getting top grades and test scores, so he stays on in the orchestral but doesn't opt for a lead role.
>Alexander needs to balance his time and prioritize what is important like his grades without giving up on his interest so he should put more time on studying than on his interests.
8.) Q: Alexander Keith is generally pretty responsible, and you feel you have a good communication about curfew, checking in, etc. Occasionally Alexander Keith forgets to check in or calls to say he will come in a bit past curfew.
A: You thank him for calling, but say you have to follow the rules and take away a privilege, as you don't want him to think your rules are going to loosen up.
> For him to obey the rules given, when he breaks a rule he should be given a just punishment. Giving him right punishments will make him a responsible teen.
9.) Q: Alexander Keith has been dating someone for 2 months now. You and your partner are worried. Alexander Keith says that he's in love, and you're nervous that Alexander Keith may be rushing into a relationship before either of them are old enough, especially if it involves sex.
A: Your partner has a talk with Alexander Keith and tries to convince him that he should wait until they are more mature, and more sure of the relationship to engage in sex. However, just in case, your partner talks to Alexander Keith about safe sex, condoms, and birth control. You both hope that by talking about it openly, Alexander Keith will feel he can come to one of you with any questions or problems.
> As parents we find it important to have talks with Alexander regarding safe sex and limitations on his relationship since he had himself a girlfriend. He should know how to respect a girl and a relationship properly and he needs guidance so by that we should be the one opening up first tom him about relationship issues and topics so through that we would feel comfortable opening up whenever he needs help.
5.) Q: Alexander Keith took the PSAT and his scores were average for verbal and average for math. He got bogged down on the reading comprehension questions and some types of math questions and ran out of time. Ever since the results came back, he has been prone to self doubt. You have noticed that his study habits in English, history and math and science have gone down a bit.
A: You tell Alexander Keith that the PSAT and his scores does not determine how smart he is, nor does it determine what college he will get into. You remind Alexander Keith that he still has plenty of time to study and work hard so that he can do well on the SAT, the one that really matters.
> I don't want Alexander to feel bad about his scores because it will be an additional problem and pressure to him and it will only make his performance worst. So as a parent, I will comfort him by telling him to study well and do good on his other tests especially on his SAT.
6.) Q: You get a call from Alexander Keith on his cell phone. While backing out of a parking space Alexander Keith bumped into a passing car. There was only minor damage to both cars.
A: You realize it was a careless error and typical for young drivers, but you want Alexander Keith to learn a lesson so you revoke driving privileges for two weeks, and make him deal with all the insurance forms and earn the money to repay you the cost of the deductible of $250.
>Making mistakes is normal for teenagers at his age but as parents our way of giving punishment for Alexander is for him to work hard for the money that we lost because of his carelessness. Through that Alexander could learn a valuable lesson of being careful the next time. And with that kind of punishment it will make him responsible of his actions.
7.) Q: Alexander Keith has been playing violin in the school orchestra and continuing with piano and guitar lessons off and on over the past couple of years. He accompanies himself on the guitar and sings very well. Now he has a choice of being a lead violinist in the school orchestra, or part of a quartet organized by his private music teacher that will travel a bit and give recitals.
A: Alexander Keith wants to keep his music up, but wants to focus on getting top grades and test scores, so he stays on in the orchestral but doesn't opt for a lead role.
>Alexander needs to balance his time and prioritize what is important like his grades without giving up on his interest so he should put more time on studying than on his interests.
8.) Q: Alexander Keith is generally pretty responsible, and you feel you have a good communication about curfew, checking in, etc. Occasionally Alexander Keith forgets to check in or calls to say he will come in a bit past curfew.
A: You thank him for calling, but say you have to follow the rules and take away a privilege, as you don't want him to think your rules are going to loosen up.
> For him to obey the rules given, when he breaks a rule he should be given a just punishment. Giving him right punishments will make him a responsible teen.
9.) Q: Alexander Keith has been dating someone for 2 months now. You and your partner are worried. Alexander Keith says that he's in love, and you're nervous that Alexander Keith may be rushing into a relationship before either of them are old enough, especially if it involves sex.
A: Your partner has a talk with Alexander Keith and tries to convince him that he should wait until they are more mature, and more sure of the relationship to engage in sex. However, just in case, your partner talks to Alexander Keith about safe sex, condoms, and birth control. You both hope that by talking about it openly, Alexander Keith will feel he can come to one of you with any questions or problems.
> As parents we find it important to have talks with Alexander regarding safe sex and limitations on his relationship since he had himself a girlfriend. He should know how to respect a girl and a relationship properly and he needs guidance so by that we should be the one opening up first tom him about relationship issues and topics so through that we would feel comfortable opening up whenever he needs help.
Alexander Keith is becoming more and more independent. In one of Alexander Keith's attempts to assert his independence, he ran off with his girlfriend and got matching tattoos.
You were baffled at Alexander Keith's stupidity, but you realize independence involves learning to live with his own mistakes. Fortunately the tattoos are very small and in an inconspicuous place.
10.) Q: Alexander Keith comes home after curfew. You notice the next day that there is a dent on the right front fender of the car. You spoke with Alexander Keith last night when he got home and he said that everything was fine and the only reason he was late was because he had to drop off a few friends.
A: You ask Alexander Keith about the dent and give him a chance to explain, because you figure he was too scared to tell you last night. He blurts out what happened and apologizes. You say you don't have the money in the budget to pay the insurance deductible so he will have to save money to pay it or just live with the dent.
> For him not to get spoiled, Alexander must pay for the dents that he made to his car. As parents it is our way of teaching him to be responsible so that the next time he will be extra careful of his car.
Alexander Keith wants to get a summer job but so far has only applied to two fast-food restaurants and a grocery store with no results.
You are asking Alexander Keith to save half of the earnings for college.
Alexander Keith has had some arguments with friends and temporarily has no one to hang out with. He is moping around the house. Alexander Keith used to go out frequently, but now he just sits at home on the weekends.
You realize that it is a difficult time for Alexander Keith, and just let him be. If he continues on like this for another week you'll do something about it.
Time passes. Alexander Keith continues living life.
Here are some highlights from Alexander Keith's 11th grade report card.
Alexander Keith received good marks for citizenship from several teachers, indicating that Alexander Keith contributed often to the class.
He got a B in Spanish II and B's in both English and American History. The English teacher thought Alexander Keith could do better with more effort.
He received a B in Algebra II and a B in Physics, and an at earlier conference with the Physics teacher, this teacher thought Alexander Keith was working up to his ability.
He received A's in his fine arts classes this past year and a notation "Pleasure to have in class" from the Drawing II teacher.
He got A's for both orchestra and vocal music classes and an award for "leadership in musical performance."
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